Once
we had decided that we would do another blog post in November about
gratitude (cliche, I know), I realized that today is the best day for me
to start talking about it. Yes, my last post was about my mom and
breast cancer and some memories. Today is some of the same, but with a
different twist - so now you have to read to the end to see what the
twist is. :)
My mom and her husband Bill |
About 6 months before that, I had started a "gratitude" journal of sorts. It's a book I had bought called, "The Happiness Project". Each page has a place for 5 years worth of journal entries, with only enough room for about 1-2 sentences each year. I hadn't missed a day of my journal, and so I continued to find something "happy" to write about each day - even October 30, 2013. That day I wrote:
And, I truly meant
what I wrote. My mom was happier being with her kids and grand kids for
her last few months, and she knew that the end of her life on earth
would be the end of her pain. My mother-in-law had dearly missed her
sweet husband Phil, who has passed several years earlier, and she
expressed how excited she was to see him again - on the other side. :)
Carol with her 4 kids, celebrating her 80th birthday |
Like I said, our
lives were changed that day last year. Our 3 teenagers loved and took
care of their dying grandmother, and learned a lot about life and death
and especially about what is truly important. And they watched as their
parents did the same. I would never wish this lesson on anyone else,
but I am grateful that our family had this experience - together!
Me and my mom on Christmas |
Just 4 weeks later,
my sweet mother-in-law Carol, passed away on December 1st. Then, only
45 days later, my mother passed away too. Though it was a difficult
time, we found joy in remembering the lives that they had led and the
examples that they were to their families.
Holding mom's hand |
So as we move into November, the month of gratitude, I hope everyone can find peace and happiness in their day no matter what that day brings. I always write in my happiness journal at night right before I go to sleep. It gives me a minute of reflection on the day, and helps me go to sleep with good thoughts.
Whether your life is peaceful and calm, or a little crazy right now, give it a try! Even if you don't write it in a journal, just take a minute to think about the best part of your day, and you will see a difference. :)